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>> Hi again. You know, one of the ironies of emotional eating is that we use food to feel better, but we often don't even take the time to honor how we feel in the first place. Would you agree? Either we don't take the time or we don't know how to nourish ourselves, so we turn to food as nourishment for our emotions. And how does that usually work out? We don't feel nourished emotionally, physically, or in any other way. Today, we're going to focus on how you as an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach can support a self-nourishing mindset or nourishment from the inside. How can you help clients release their emotional and eating struggles hold on to self-compassion and care about themselves enough to move beyond the cycles of stuck that led them to you? Ah, those cycles of stuck, stress, emotional eating, all of those habit loops and cycles that we just can't seem to get out of and that leave us in a continual state of struggle. As an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, you can help clients let go of the struggle by letting go of self-judgment and nourishing it, letting go of shame and connecting with it, letting go of the past and honoring it, letting go of failure and using it. Now again, like habits, mindsets aren't easy to change, but sometimes it doesn't really require much on your part. Simply listening and holding space for clients to release emotions can go a long way toward helping them. And sometimes it's not about moving but about staying still. Many clients might feel stuck, yet the irony, they're stuck in a constant state of movement and trying to change. Therefore, coaching is often as much about slowing down and turning inward, simply noticing and being with yourself as it is about reaching goals. What do you think about that? How do you think you might simply be with clients while also guiding them out of their cycles of stuck? Grab your journal, pause the video, and reflect on that for a few minutes. I'll be here when you're ready to continue. Yes, coaching is a constant balancing act. But as always, the more you practice, the more intuitive it will become. The more tools you have in your tool belt, the more confident you'll feel. Let's go over four ways that you can support clients self-nourishment by fostering a self-compassionate mindset. Number one, honor emotions. Honoring emotions means helping clients end the fight against themselves through self-connection. Cycles of stuck can keep us locked into eating habits because we're unwilling to accept or sit with emotions. As an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, you can encourage clients to first notice their emotions and also their internal voices. Are they even aware of these voices or are they so focused on doing that they never stopped to notice the mindsets motivating their behaviors? It can be really eye-opening to discover how much we push away or disregard how we feel when we're sprinting through life and using distraction when things get tough. Recognizing emotions opens the door to honoring them. You'll find that many of your clients were raised or conditioned to downplay, hide, or even reject their emotions. One idea that you might continually return to is that emotions aren't bad. Like physical pain, emotional pain teaches us how to avoid the same mistakes in the future, plus ignoring emotional pain often just means even more pain later on, or in the case of emotional eating, continuing to use food to help us cope. Some clients will hold the attitude that being emotional is a sign of weakness. Can you help them see how going through emotions rather than around them is actually more challenging and requires bravery? Honoring emotions requires radical acceptance. And though acceptance can be incredibly hard, it uses less effort and reaps more benefits than continually fighting against ourselves. Constantly rationalizing, and avoiding, and squashing emotions can be all consuming. We all have pain. It's the human condition and it's normal. Honoring emotions means understanding that the happiness we all want so desperately to achieve comes from taking action and solving problems, many of which can be solved by shifting our mindsets. Number two, practice self-kindness. Or as Jennifer Tates puts it, mind your mind. Once again, self-awareness is the first step. Minding your mind means being aware of the internal dialogue or self-talk that keeps you stuck. Limiting beliefs certainly play a role here. We agree with Geneen Roth, who says that judgments do not lead to change, but awareness does. Awareness opens the door to empowerment. As an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, you can help clients shift towards self-compassion by empowering them to release judgment. You can also help clients reframe their internal language to more self-loving talk. How can they offer themselves kindness when self-critical thoughts arise? How can they use that kindness to build a more helpful relationship to food? Now, granted, shifting from self-judgment to self-love is often a process. So you might start with neutral language. For example, shifting from should to could. This in itself is an incredibly pervasive tendency that most if not all of us have. Whenever I catch myself saying I should, I consciously try to rephrase it to I could. I say I should all the time. We all do, right? We don't even think about the effects that it has on us. What does the word should bring up for you? What feelings does it evoke? Our relationships with ourselves are mirrored in the language we use with ourselves, but shifting mindsets and self-talk is a process that requires practice. We included an exercise called Should, Could, Will and your Learning Center for you to explore this further. Practicing self-kindness means taking care of you in terms of mindset and behavior. As an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, it means continually reminding clients that they're enough as they are right now. It means helping them offer love to themselves rather than needing the approval of others. It also might require them to ditch their endless to-do list, simplify, or delegate so that they can carve out a little more space for themselves. To recap so far, self-compassion means letting go of unhelpful emotions like shame and self-judgment, and nourishing from the inside by practicing self-kindness. Let's keep going. Number three, accept imperfection. Here's the thing about perfection, it's not realistic. Imperfection is a part of the human experience, no one is perfect. Feeling shame because we're not perfect is often isolating. While accepting imperfection fuels connection with others. It inspires authentic communication and the knowledge that we're not alone because no one is perfect. Here's another thing about perfection, it's boring. Be honest. Would you want to spend time with someone who's perfect? Imperfection requires bravery because it requires allowing yourself to be vulnerable. It requires saying, yes, I ate a lot of dessert last night, but you know what, it was my choice and I'm okay with that. The desserts were delicious and I let myself enjoy the pleasure of trying all of them. Will I feel the need to try them all next time? Probably not as they gave me a stomach ache, live and learn. Finally, one more thing about perfection, the pressure to be perfect can leave to stagnation. That's right. Striving for perfection can keep us in cycles of stuck. As a Health Coach, you can illuminate the benefits of mistakes. Problems are opportunities for exploration, positive change, and movement. Accepting imperfection means letting go of failure and using it to fail forward. When it comes to behaviors, like choices we make around food, going back isn't an option. Many clients might struggle with regret over past behaviors, but this usually keeps them stuck in some way. For example, knowing they failed in the past, like by eating five cookies instead of just one might trigger them to do it again next time because they're so tied to their past story and actions, they struggle to see other options. They don't even bother trying because they assume that it will all fall apart anyway. Instead, you can help clients understand how they can learn from their perceived mistakes by adopting a curious mindset. You can help them reframe the concept of failure. Why is eating too many cookies a failure? What would successful eating look like? Is it sustainable? You can also use perceived mistakes as opportunities to practice forgiveness. Imperfection allows for plenty of wiggle room, which is very helpful based on all of life's curveballs. It also reminds us that there's no endpoint. Tell me, do you think happiness is an illusion? It's an interesting idea. For example, when I lose weight, I'll be happy. As an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, you can help clients accept that their ideal goal might not ever happen. Your client will only be happy when they choose to accept themselves and choose to be happy. Who do you know who magically became forever happy after reaching a goal? It doesn't really work like that, does it? There are no perfect endpoints, and there's no perfect journey, but that makes it interesting. Number four, connect to the present. Connecting to the present means letting go of the past and honoring it. This is another one of those balancing acts. On one hand, you want to encourage clients to honor and accept their emotions. On the other hand, you want to help them focus on the present rather than letting emotions keep them stuck in the past. The trick is to be constructive with handling those emotions and use them for forward movement rather than to wallow in them. In short, as a coach from the sidelines, you want to encourage clients to evaluate the function and value of their emotions. What do you think about the idea that emotions are overrated? Spending too much time on emotions can feel like running on a treadmill exerting a lot of energy, but not really going anywhere at all. Emotions pass and they often pass quickly, letting them go can help you connect to the present and unstick yourself from unhelpful habits. Connecting to the present also means using emotions in meaningful ways through coping skills. Remember locus of control? An external locus of control can empower your clients to find alternate nonfood ways of coping. We included a handout called Connect, Release, Use in your Learning Center to help you apply and practices this in a variety of ways. Remember, there's no one right way and no one assessment or approach is going to offer the best proven results for everyone. Okay, let's recap before we wrap up. Supporting self-nourishment means helping clients move from cycles of stuck to a cycle of compassion. It means helping them accept emotions and being willing to notice them with non-judgment in order to figure out helpful ways of dealing with them. Remember the process of emotional healing that we discussed in part one of the course? Let's review. Honoring emotions means creating space for release and practicing radical acceptance. Practicing self-kindness also requires practicing radical acceptance. Accepting imperfection includes learning to tolerate distress, and connecting to the present means developing self-healing coping skills. It's no coincidence that self-nourishment includes all four of these factors. Why? Because when it comes to emotional eating, emotions are an important piece of coaching. Are you ready to practice this material with your accountability coaching partner? Look for some exercises in the Skill Building Activity section of your Learning Center. And this week, perhaps focus a bit more on sending out your experience not only in the Facebook group but in your community. Keep celebrating why you're here. Until next time.

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Posted by: integrativenutrition on Mar 14, 2019

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