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Coach Empowerment

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>> Hi. Tell me, do you think your clients are the authors of their own stories? Are you the author of your story? To quote the author Anne Rice, "You do have a story inside you. It lies articulate and waiting to be written behind your silence and your suffering." Clients come to you for help. And if they're struggling with emotional eating, most likely they've been suffering in silence. As we've discussed in this course, helping clients understand emotional eating includes exploring the roots through the eating story as well as current triggers and stressors that motivate unhelpful relationships with food. These all contribute to a client's eating narrative or food foundation, which includes food metaphors. Are you still with me? This is simply a framework for understanding the role that food plays in a client's life. We've already explored why story is a helpful tool for coaching. One reason is that storytelling is empowering. Knowing we're the authors of our own stories can help us reframe and rewrite our stories using an internal locus of control. Narrative therapy is an empowering collaborative form of psychotherapy that focuses on helping clients rewrite their personal stories into empowering ones. It provides objective distance from problems by viewing them as separate from the self. This helps to organize thoughts, attach more rational meanings to experiences, and move forward. The goal is to transform the effects of problems. We recommended a resource in your Skill Building Activities that you might want to check out. As an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, you can borrow this approach while staying within your scope of practice by helping clients re-author their eating stories into more empowering and hopeful ones. After all, if they're the authors then they get to choose how the story progresses. You can help clients build alternate storylines, create empowering metaphors and analogies, connect common threads, and gain personal agency for navigating difficult emotions and situations in the future. Marni Gillard, an author and storyteller herself, put it like this, "We need to look hard at the stories we create and wrestle with them. Retell and retell them, and work with them like clay. It is in the retelling and returning that they give us their wisdom." Narrative therapy is a valuable tool for empowering clients around food mindsets and behaviors. We included a handout that can help you guide clients through rewriting their eating stories which can shed light on self-judgment, resistance, limiting beliefs, and other mindsets that keep them stuck. As you know, it's not our job to spoon-feed you the answers. However, we can provide you with more tools for your coaching tool belt. So for today, here are three basic strategies for coaching self-empowerment around emotional eating. Number one, reframe, reframe, reframe. In one of her many interviews, psychotherapist Esther Perel, said that her definition of greatness was this, "Come in with one story and leave with a completely different one." Narrative therapy is all about reframing stories in empowering ways. Reframing is an empowering tool that clients can use in all areas of their lives. It means using an alternate perspective or mindset. In this course, for example, we're using a variety of lenses and perspectives to understand emotional eating. How can you help clients reframe their stories? Here are a few ideas based on what we've discussed so far. Grab your journal as you're going to write down one to two examples in a minute. You're going to help your clients reframe from an external to internal locus of control, reframe the values of others to personal values, reframe mistakes and failures, reframe biases and limiting beliefs, reframe the ideal from one size fits all to one size fits none, reframe negativity to realistic optimism, reframe from the past and what they can't control to the present and what they can control, and reframe judgment to curiosity and neutrality. Okay, grab your journal and spend a few minutes writing down one to two examples of each of these reframes for your life. How was that? Did you come up with some examples? Again, the more you practice, the more confident you'll feel. This relates to the next strategy. Number two, empower the mindset by helping clients take active responsibility. You can help clients recognize that they have a choice in both mindsets and behaviors. Self-empowerment provides a sense of control. They are the ones who get to choose whether or not to eat foods they struggle with. And they are the ones who get to decide to listen to their bodies rather than eating based on emotions. They are also the ones who can choose to practice self-acceptance, forgiveness, and even gratitude when they feel frustrated due to a perceived lack of willpower. How can you as an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach support clients in taking responsibility? How can you encourage them to play an active role in their lives rather than looking to you or someone else for all of the answers or rather than giving up and feeling stuck for the rest of their lives? Part of it is understanding that you might not have to do as much as you think. Simply listening to your clients can help them greatly. Maybe you provide a few simple ideas, but always turn it back to them. Another part of it is encouraging action. Clients might wait until they feel ready to take action, until they feel inspired or motivated. But you know what? Sometimes you have to just start and adapt along the way. Again, taking back the ability to choose requires taking risks, staying honest with yourself, and accepting in perfection. It can feel much easier to pin frustrations on external factors. And there's a comfort in staying put rather than risk feeling vulnerable and making mistakes. Change can also threaten our self-image and values. And in fear, we might do everything in our power to stick with the familiar. Here are a few coaching suggestions. Try not to have an opinion about what you want clients to do. Use open-ended questions that inspire clients to reach their own answers. Help clients develop their own decision-making abilities and self-trust. Encourage challenging actions while keeping a comfortable pace. Continually acknowledge clients' successes, strengths, and knowledge gained. And confront clients in positive ways if they don't stay accountable to their actions. This is their show. You're simply the vehicle for their self-healing. And finally, number three, empower behaviors by encouraging clients to actively choose fitting out. You can support clients when they feel the fear. You can help them develop self-trust. And you can help them experience the energizing power of empowerment. What are their values? What is their why for eating what and how they eat? Action is important. And sometimes, as we've just touched on, you need to challenge clients to take a step. However, the steps are much more meaningful and more likely to stick in helpful ways if clients connect with the reasons behind them, especially when those reasons include honoring themselves and aligning with their values rather than fighting against themselves and disconnecting from what matters most. Well, you can probably see how empowering that can be. Before we end, let's briefly practice applying some self-compassion and self-empowerment as you would with a client. Grab your journal one more time. First, how might you help a client reframe their story using a self-compassionate mindset? Pause the video and spend a few minutes brainstorming. Here are a few things you may or may not have considered. Shift from self-should to self-care in order to decrease internal motivators of stress. Shift from self-judgment to self-acceptance. Use the lens of curiosity. Release shame. Focus on failing forward. And honor the past, but let it go. How does that sound to you? Self-compassion supports self-empowerment. Can you see how that might be the case? Take a few minutes right now to brainstorm how you might help a client reframe their story through self-empowerment. Pause the video now and I'll wait right here. Here are a few ideas. Keep it active. Give clients responsibility over their lives so they have a sense of control. Emphasize the power of choice and the possibility of alternatives. Clients get to choose what to eat, when to eat, where to eat, how to eat, and so forth. Shed light on the tools that clients have. Focus on the present. And encourage clients to continually challenge themselves in order to build confidence and a sense of mastery. We included a handout called Reframe Your Eating Story, which provides one possible framework to use. To recap, narrative therapy is a valuable tool for empowering clients around food mindsets and behaviors. You can borrow this approach while staying within your scope of practice as an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach by helping clients re-author their eating stories into more empowering ones. Three strategies for coaching self-empowerment are to reframe, reframe, reframe. Empower the mindset by helping clients take active responsibility. And empower behaviors by encouraging clients to actively fit out. This week, continue to think about how you can send out self-empowerment with people you know, and with your community, maybe even online. The possibilities are endless. I'll see you back here soon.

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Posted by: integrativenutrition on Mar 14, 2019

Coach Empowerment

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