The Psychology of Your Success_Final

>> Hi again. From this brief course overview, you can probably see that we have a lot to cover. Luckily, we're here to help you succeed. Remember, you got this. Since this course focuses on the psychology of eating, let's apply a similar framework to help set you up for success. After all, as Carol Dweck put it in her book, MindSet, The New Psychology of Success, real self-confidence is reflected in your mindset, your readiness to grow. With that in mind, here are five tips to boost your success in this course. Tip number one, prioritize your time by single-tasking and by focusing on your big rocks. If you went through the Fundamentals of our Health Coach Training Program, this will sound familiar. But one of our goals for you is to have you carry what you do in these courses into your lifestyle. So let's practice by applying that same time management awareness to this course. For the purposes of time, we'll try to keep this brief. Let's start with big rocks. We're all about big rocks here at IIN. In fact, we do them ourselves every week. Big rocks are the major goals that you want to accomplish. One big rock for you right now might be completing this course, but we know that you have a whole life going on outside of this course. So it's important to keep other life goals in mind as well. Go ahead and grab a pen and paper and pause the video to take a few minutes right now to jot down your top three goals for this year. Okay, now that you have those goals, think about how you spend your time. Are you prioritizing those goals with your activities? Here are a few things that can help you do that. Single-task, multitasking sounds efficient in theory, but in reality, not so much. Single-tasking, doing one thing at a time allows you to focus and check things off your list. I don't know about you, but I feel much more productive when I cross things off with conviction rather than juggling five partially completed tasks. As Joshua says, "By doing less, I do more." Just say no. It can be really hard to say no to others, so start with yourself by writing a not-to-do list. Go back to those big rocks as a reminder of what you want to accomplish. Make a list of your weekly activities and cross off the ones that you can let go of for now. Align your schedule with your big rocks. Plan clearly either on your paper or on your computer calendar so that you can see the big picture and focus on moving toward your primary goals. Does it seem like you have no time? Start with some small shifts and see what happens. It's amazing how time opens up if you create space for it. If you spend all of your time on all of those daily tasks, you won't have any room in your life to accomplish your bigger goals. Start with this course by blocking in daily chunks or several longer chunks a few days a week to single-task focus on emotional eating psychology. I like to color code my Google calendar to help me organize and because seeing bright colors motivates me. We've included a big rocks template to help you lay it all out so you can always start there. Create a clear vision for yourself to boost synchronicity. We're also big on synchronicity here at IIN and for good reason. Synchronicity refers to meaningful coincidences in your life. Seeking balance, for example, through healthy eating and incorporating primary food amplifies your synchronicity and so does creating a clear vision for yourself. When your energy is open, like attracts like, if you live and breathe and feel the future you want to create, it increases the likelihood of that happening. So there you go. That was actually a rather long winded first tip, but time management makes life a whole lot easier, so we had to start there. Tip number two, continually practice what you preach. Emotional eating is an ongoing journey that ebbs and flows. Perfection is overrated. The goal should be to develop a healthy relationship with food, not to eat perfectly all the time. And this goes for you, not just your clients. During this course, you may find yourself falling into some emotional eating at one point or another, that's okay. Practicing what you preach not only means practicing a more healthy relationship with food but also practicing nonjudgment when you eat or respond to your emotions in a way that's less than ideal. You're human just as your clients are, they need a coach who's authentic and can relate, not someone who's perfect or acts perfectly. Keep walking your nourishing walk and keep self-talking that nourishing self-talk. Make an effort to start recognizing when you judge, push away or push down emotions, and how that influences other aspects of your life. Start noticing connections between your emotions and your eating habits. Emotions aren't bad, they provide useful information, and emotions constantly fluctuate. Sometimes they push us forward and sometimes they send us back. Your role, as a Health Coach, is to guide your clients through challenges and setbacks. Your job is to help them learn how to self-nourish. This process is definitely more intuitive to teach if you have experience nourishing yourself. Learning in theory is one thing, but applying it to yourself or to a client brings you to the next level. Tip number three, awareness is your ally. Coaching clients through emotional eating involves having some difficult conversations. Remember, great coaches don't play small. Shying away from uncomfortable conversations won't foster insight or progress. Fears and self-doubt can easily get in the way of your coaching practice if you let them. So learn how to identify and work with those fears and doubts. Gaining insight into your own relationship with food and with yourself will help strengthen your confidence coaching others. We've included a number of reflection exercises for you throughout this course. For example, you might try a food journal that includes not only what you eat but how you feel physically and emotionally before and afterward. You can even start this today. Coaching is dynamic and experiential. You'll go much further by taking a deep dive into your own inner wisdom and experiences, than by over-intellectualizing this topic and trying to read as many books as possible before looking for clients. Applying the information from this course to your coaching begins with understanding how it applies to your own life. Recall Joshua's analogy about learning to ride a bike by doing it rather than reading about it. I don't know about you, but I don't think I would want to learn how to ride a bike from someone who has never ridden a bike before. Of course, you won't relate to all of the information presented in this course, but use what you can, it will be enough. And just as you support your clients, we urge you to find your own sources of support and encouragement whether that's through your own personal coaching or counseling, make sure you have the support you need to help you navigate through this difficult inner terrain. Tip number four, remember that one size fits none. As Joshua puts it, "Nutrition is a funny science. And when it comes to science, psychology is also rather funny." It tends to fall into the soft science category because it falls away from the typical hard and fast rules of science. When it comes to emotional eating, continually return to the idea that one size fits none. Every person you coach has a different relationship with food based on their experiences, habits, values, relationships, self-relationship, circumstances, resources, and personality. It would be nice if we could just spoon-feed you simple answers, but bio-individuality always prevails. Just as the size of a shirt varies depending on the company that makes it, there's no one size fits all. There is no prescription for deconstructing emotional eating and developing a healing relationship with food. It's a personal, individualized process. This isn't one of those commercials that promises a magical snake oil cure. There's no mathematical equation where A always has to equal B. Do you see where I'm going with all these metaphors? Along with all of that, remember the roots. Return to the why when you try something with a client and it doesn't work. Your clients are the experts on themselves. Setbacks and struggles are information, and coaching requires continuous adapting and modifying based on individual differences. Psychology is a funny science. Nutrition is a funny science, and the psychology of nutrition is perhaps the funniest science of all. Luckily, this is your wheelhouse. You're here because you want to help clients untangle those messy webs and build a meaningful, happy, and healthy life that works for them. You're not here to lay out a rigid plan for them to follow. You're here to guide them through the journey which brings us to the final tip. Tip number five, trust the process and enjoy the journey. Circling back to Carol Dweck's book, she says, "Picture your brain forming new connections as you meet the challenge and learn." Keep on going. Success doesn't always arrive on a silver platter, you must move toward success, but that means more than just putting one foot in front of the other. It means practicing the self-trust that you helped clients achieve. It means trusting that you're where you need to be. It means trusting the process, and it means creating space to enjoy the journey. Challenges provide opportunities to learn and grow. Questioning your own assumptions helps propel you toward new possibilities. You chose to be here, and we're honored to help you along the way. This is a lot of useful information to take in, so let's do a quick recap. The five tips we went over to help boost your success in this course are to prioritize your time by single-tasking and by focusing on your big rocks, practice what you preach, make awareness through ally, remember that one size fits none, and trust the process and enjoy the journey. So with all that said, how do you feel? Ready to head into Module 1? We'll see you there soon. In the meantime, spend some time getting to know your course moderators and classmates in the Facebook group. Bye for now.