Being Comfortable with Saying
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Could it be that we parents
are afraid to say "No"
to our children?
What if I tell you that saying "No"
can actually get us closer?
Let us explore together today
how to say "No" to our children
and be Okay with it.
Let us face it, no parent
likes to hear
"You are so mean!"
"You are not being fair!"
or even "I hate you!"
in response for not doing
or giving them
what they want.
We all want to have
good relationship
with our children.
We want them to respect us.
We want them to express
love back to us.
So we tend to think twice
before we say anything
that will trigger some
negative reaction.
But is that really going
to help our kids
to love or respect us more?
The key is really in recognizing
what our children need,
not only what they want.
And what they need from us
is to be their parents.
They need us to be the adults
in the relationship.
They need us to be their rock.
So if my focus is to gain
popularity with my children,
I might lose sight of what
really will support them.
If my focus is my
agenda to be loved,
I may not come from a place
of love to them.
And our kids may
not appreciate that
or show it right away,
and they will kick and scream,
but eventually they will respect
and they will appriciate
our strength and true care.
So if saying "No"
is the right answer,
let us not be afraid of the backlash
and say it.