Being Comfortable with Saying

Could it be that we parents are afraid to say "No" to our children? What if I tell you that saying "No" can actually get us closer? Let us explore together today how to say "No" to our children and be Okay with it. Let us face it, no parent likes to hear "You are so mean!" "You are not being fair!" or even "I hate you!" in response for not doing or giving them what they want. We all want to have good relationship with our children. We want them to respect us. We want them to express love back to us. So we tend to think twice before we say anything that will trigger some negative reaction. But is that really going to help our kids to love or respect us more? The key is really in recognizing what our children need, not only what they want. And what they need from us is to be their parents. They need us to be the adults in the relationship. They need us to be their rock. So if my focus is to gain popularity with my children, I might lose sight of what really will support them. If my focus is my agenda to be loved, I may not come from a place of love to them. And our kids may not appreciate that or show it right away, and they will kick and scream, but eventually they will respect and they will appriciate our strength and true care. So if saying "No" is the right answer, let us not be afraid of the backlash and say it.