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Rav on Lezulato : Unconditional Love

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Teachings of the Rav Rav Brandwein When we had first met the Rabbi Brandwein he showed me an introduction that he had written to his work in the compilation of the 18 volume set of the Writings of the Ari. And right there in the beginning he was discussing the idea of l'zulat. I had heard that word before. Zulat means aside, outside, other than, it has many meanings. But he always would write it as "l'zulat", that a person has to reach a level of l'zulat; outside of himself. I had heard that word used, but not in relation to the person himself. Used in relation to others, and to be very frank, it took me many, many years to understand that even when we say the Ana B'Ko'ach with the sequences of the first letters of the Ana B'Ko'ach and the Vav-Shin-Resh, you will notice that it says, Ahavat Chinam. Love, well Chinam doesn't even mean as we interpret it only, it has many meanings. One is unconditional. Chinam also means, you get a present. It says you got something, B'chinam. Matnat chinam. It is a gift meaning you did not have to earn it. So that word, Chinam, or as we say, Ahavat Chinam - to have a friend - but it does not give the definition as l'zulat. Well we say Ahavat Chinam as opposed to Sinat Chinam. Sinat Chinam was without reason. Love for no reason, other than for the sake of itself. What do you mean? Meaning that as Rabbi Brandwein and according to what he had learned from his teacher, that to have a relationship with another person and to achieve the ultimate relationship, it has to achieve that consciousness of for no reason, but there is always a reason. Most times why we love somebody because we may get something from somebody. But to understand what it actually means to love somebody for no reason, intellectually we may even understand it, and I don't think we can. I think this is one of the concepts that will always remain difficult although we repeat it each time when we hear the word, Noten HaTorah, by the word Noten and then the concluding statement is Ahavat Chinam. While we may drum it into our minds to make an attempt to achieve unconditional love, it is not something that comes without effort. And because it cannot come without effort, while we may understand what unconditional love means there are no conditions. It can never really define for us, unless we have achieved that level towards at least one person. And, therefore, when I first read that introduction in which he mentions and discusses the idea of l'zulat, you have got to come out of yourself. As long as you still love yourself to whatever extent, you cannot achieve the ultimate of loving others. Which means that for all the good reasons and for all the right reasons, if you look at a situation and I am going to mention - I have never mentioned this before - I don't even know if I ... I think I mentioned it to the three of you, but 29 years ago in this time as always when it came to an event of holidays I would share it with Rabbi Brandwein. I would go to Rabbi Brandwein. Of course, we studied in the middle of the night, but that was just the two of us, nobody people knew, but everybody was sleeping, so it was not something we had to conceal, so to speak. But our relationship after many years of being together with him, I maybe it was contagious, but I was fortunate to feel l'zulat towards Rabbi Brandwein. Meaning there was nothing there that I could possibly conceive and I conduct myself with him that way, nothing in there that I could possible consider that I would not do 'this' because it would interfere with something that I wanted. It just disappeared. There was no Nitzutz, there was no spark insofar as my relationship with him was concerned. And... I was not totally cognizant, maybe it was my fault. I was not cognizant of this relationship as other members of his family understood. And I did not understand that there could be even envy at this relationship. I felt, why should one be envious of ... because I understood that this was just something that came natural. It was not, certainly, done to offend anybody, but when I came to him the night of the Seder for the first time in our seven year relationship he met me at the door, because he knew that nobody was coming to him at 12 o'clock at night, and this was the night of Passover, and so when he heard the knock on the door he came to the door. And, for the first time he told me that it would be best that we not be together tonight. Because the family knew that I would be coming and there was a whole argument during that night. And so, with tears, he said I should go home. Of course, three days later... The lesson that we should learn; that we should always be happy when we see people loving each other because that adds more to the world, adds more to our own well-being, rather than think, "But why am I not part of that?" Everyone can be part of l'zulat as long as you conduct yourself that way. Chag Sameach. For more information

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