Real Love in Real Life: How to stay married for a long time?
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So let's talk about...real love in real life
How do you stay married for a really really really really really really long time?
The purpose of me even doing this video is
to trying to get the conversation going about
real marriage life
and things that happen.
I'm just really disappointed that people are getting divorced.
How do you stay married for a long, long time?
When I first got married, I made it a point to
ask every old person, "How do you stay married for a long time?"
"Oh baby! Me and my husband, we're celebrating 42 years of marriage!"
"Oh my goodness! That's like sooooo crazy! How do you stay married for 42 years?"
9 times out of 10 they say:
You have to have God in your marriage because God
is the only thing that's going to keep you all together.
Anybody who knew Dustin and I
(That's my husband. "Hey Baby!")
They were like, "If anybody gone stay married forever and live a happy marriage...
"It's Dustin and Stephanie. They gone be together FOREVA!"
He was going his way. I was going my way.
It was God, who was that 3rd strand that was greater than
our own power, our own will, even greater than our own desire
that taught us, individually,
He sought God, I sought God over here on my side,
He sought God over there on his side,
And God brought us back to one another.
Its not, "Is God able?"
"Is God willing? Does He want to?"
Because the bible tells us that He does.
The real question was: Was I, as the wife,
going to step aside and allow God to do
what he was TOTALLY able to do,
and then exceed that expectation?
Okay, if the bible is true and I believe what the bible says
and the bible says that God is love and
love never fails, that means God doesn't fail, then what is it
about my marriage, right now, that's going on
that is failing?
This aint real love.
Real love is
Giving another what they
the most, when they
at
That's what I had to do in my marriage. That's the REAL LOVE.
The love that we (my husband and I) had in the beginning of our relationship,
pales in comparison to the love we have learned to give
one another in this day- right now.
And the only person that could teach us how
to separate the real love from the pseudo love
was God.
The bottom line is this:
Marriage is hard! And American society
gives us the exit option.
It (American Society) flashes it in front of our faces:
and it says, "Ooo, you can get a divorce!"
Its like all in your face! "DIVORCE, DIVORCE, DIVORCE!"
And you start to think to yourself:
Yeah! Ima just gone ... I can do BAD all by myself!!
Get all of that out of your mind. Get all of that out of your head.
because marriage is hard but it is worth it.
Marriage is valued so much by God
I think, I believe
because it is the one type of relationship
that can, on this earthly plane
really, deeply convey what it is that Christ
has done for us through the work of his Crucifixion.
What other relationship requires such a (voluntary act of) forgiveness (and reconciliation) at such a deep level?